Friday, January 7, 2011

FBFF: My Blog, Your Blog, All the Blogs

Good morning! This is a FBFF post, led by the talented and thought provoking Katy, of Modly Chic. Katy came up with Fashion Beauty Friend Friday quite a while ago, and since the beginning, she has created a Google Group that all of you should seriously consider becoming a part of! FBFF is a great way for all of us to communicate with each other and talk about some really awesome topics that really pertain to what we do, here, on the interwebs. Have something to share? Get your voice out there!

Now, onto this week's topic for FBFF.
 This is how Katy prefaced her choice in questions this week:

"As I was reading through everyone's new years resolutions and where
they want their blogs to be I got to thinking how easy it is to become
discouraged by some of the very successful blogs out there, or the
ones we perceive as successful. We compare ourselves and suddenly find
that we are lacking. So this week we are going to be talking about

{And here are this week's questions}

1. Have you ever looked at someone's blog and thought yours will never measure up?

I have looked at several amazing blogs and have become stunned with fear and drop-jawed with amazement. It's intimidating to see blogs with 2000 and 3000 followers- or even 500 for that matter. When I began blogging, I had no idea there was a community of style bloggers out there. Honestly, I read one blog (... love Maegan) and it truly inspired me to be able to write, again. The idea of fashion wasn't really of interested to me until after I had my daughter. It was then that I decided I wanted to really make an effort to not be a frumpy mom. I was a sweatpants-wearing, PJ shopper, and I didn't care who saw me or what day it was. And now, I know there is this amazing community of bloggers with similar interests. All I can think of is, "I'm thankful to be able to write. I'm thankful for a crappy camera that at least *works*, and I feel blessed that more people than my best friends and mom have a desire to read what I have to say." In short, yes, I'm afraid my blog won't measure up to others, but really, I'm here for me and am happy to have my readers along for the ride.

2. Do you (did you) feel pressure to meet some kind of undefined standard for fashion bloggers?

Mostly, I felt pressured to go shopping and never repeat an outfit or obvious piece of clothing. Kendi really inspired me to love what I already own, during her last 30 for 30 challenge. Most of you know that I didn't complete the challenge, but it's not because I wanted to go shopping. I just had a lot of things going on in my personal life that didn't allow me to stay on top of the 30 for 30, much less write every day. My current budget situation has also made me realize (or has really FORCED ME) that I don't need more things. I might want more, but I probably wouldn't have such a desire for clothing and accessories if I didn't read blogs by people that have seemingly endless wardrobes.

3. Many established fashion bloggers are also extraordinary DIYers, bakers, and crafty people. Do you think you need to combine all of these things to be successful at blogging?

Here's the thing- blogging is really awesome and fun, and all that jazz. But originally, the blog begins because the blogger has some type of content he/she would like to share. If you want to share shoes and shoes alone, have great content, and attract readers, then your shoe blog is probably better than a blog that includes DIYs, recipes, outfit photos, and ramblings, if that blog doesn't have original, captivating, well-written content. I think that no matter what you decide to share on your blog, as long as you're good at it and you're being original, you can be successful.

4. The most successful blogs are the ones that have their own personal voice - how are you developing your voice or how did you find yours?

I love this question, because when I think of a blog having a great personal voice, I immediately think of Sydney, of The Daybook. She is so spunky, unique, fun, and relatable. I guess that's another thing that I feel pressured about... I want to be funny, but I'm only funny sometimes. And I want to be so well-spoken and put-together, that my posts aren't so wordy. But if you read Fashion Momma, you know (an example is right here, in the making) that I can't shut my mouth... or stop typing. That being said, I think I've finally, after over a year of writing this blog, found my personal voice. I struggled for a while, wondering if I should sound like I'm teaching moms how to dress or if I should sound like a young professional, since I work at a university. But my personal voice is just that- it's totally me. I write how I speak to my best friends or my mom. I think that's the easiest type of writing to read. I want you to be able to imagine me talking to you. My punctuation is the way that it is because sometimes I need a "dot dot dot" to show you where I paused and thought, or rather, where I totally forgot what I was about to say. I'm a real person with a real life. I have drama at home, at work, with family. I am a mother and my husband works night shift. Life's tough, but I'm happy because I'm blessed. And I just want you all to know all of those things. So, I tell you. In my very best Kimberly voice.

5. Toot your own horn... what's the one thing you do that is unique to you and your blog? What gives your blog an edge?

Toot, toot!
I did it!!!
Just kidding... There are a couple of unique things about me and my blog. One of them is that I'm a plus sized young lady, who stands at the ground-breaking height of 4'11". I've got a seriously tough body type to dress, so I really like that I can provide inspiration to both shorties, and plus sized women. And if there are any others out there, like me, who are both really short and not so thin, please let me know, because I'd love to grab some inspiration from you, too!
Another thing that might not necessarily be unique to me and my blog, but is something that helps me relate to a lot of other fashion bloggers, is that I'm a mom. And I started this blog solely because I wanted to be a chic one. Fashion Momma has branched out to be so much more than just a blog about a mom that likes to look nice, but I really like the "edge" that being a parent has given me in being able to relate to other bloggers.

Thanks so much for reading and I hope you'll participate next week and beyond!
Link your FBFF post, here!



  1. Now thats what Im talking about!!! So happy you posted...and your answers rock...Im totally down with your answers....all so very true hunnie!!! Lets meet here again next Friday, hehehe!!


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  2. Awe, Kimberly I loved your answers and I think your personality does come through when you write your post. I cannot belive you are only 4'11....cute little tiny thing!

  3. As someone who knows you in person, I definitely hear you in your posts, so your voice is there! And your voice is a fun, relatable one. I've really enjoyed following you on your adventures this past year!

  4. @Collette- AH! Thank you for motivating me to start back up. It felt REALLY good to just write an honest post, not worry about my outfit, and let people know how it is! LOVE YOU!

    @Jenny- Thanks, girl. That means a lot, coming from you!

    @Nikki- Eeps! YAY! It's good to know my "real" voice comes through in my posting!

  5. I loved reading your answers! One of my favorite things about style bloggers is seeing how women dress their unique body types. As a fellow shortie (and mama) you are totally inspiring! :)

  6. @Kelly- Thank you so much! I'm glad I can provide inspiration to at least one woman and momma out there!

  7. So glad you posted this week and that you answered the questions so honestly and forthright. I agree with the pressure to always be buying new things and Kendi's project has helped all of us re-think what we already have - it's really kindof revolutionary. - Katy

  8. Great answers. I also started my blog because I was stuck in sweatpants while two little ones ran around me and I got sick of feeling frumpy.

  9. You ARE an inspiration. You are able to dress your body and look beautiful and fashionable as a young mom. It is AMAZING!

  10. Kimberly I think you've done a great job at establishing your own voice! I love reading your blog and am looking forward to seeing how Trendy Tots Tuesday works out!


  11. great post!

    i love meeting other curvy girls who rock!

    i have a soon to be 17 year old and i love that you feel being a mom has given you an edge!

    viva la moms..

  12. Kendi made me realize I don't need more. The challenge made me realize I want less things and want to clean out my closet.

    I want to be funny and well-written too.

  13. Great answers. I totally agree with you, in that I want so many items because I see them on other bloggers.. If I didn't follow so many blogs, I wouldn't have such a desire! :(

    I also didn't want to repeat items when I first started, but after seeing how Kendi and Tania (WWANW) remix SO well, I'm inspired to just remix more!

    Can't wait to see what you guys have up your sleeves for Trendy Tot Tuesday! :)

  14. Sooo lovin' no word verification!


  15. I love love the KP voice - its warm, soothing and it makes me feel warm and fuzzy!

    I lUV YA - LOTS1


    Happy, Happy New Year!


  16. Yay for mommy style bloggers! I like your answers. I'm wordy too and feel like I'm always having to explain what I *actually* meant to say on my blog because I'm afraid my humor doesn't translate so well. But then I have to stop myself from doing that too much because my posts get so long. Kind of like this comment is getting. Sigh.

  17. Your blog is looking fabulous!! Love it!

  18. @Goody- Thank you so much! I'm glad you stopped by. :)

    @Colleen- Kendi is kind of a miracle to my closet/wardrobe lifestyle. I don't know how great of a remixer I am, but I lot more organized and definitely more thankful for what I have.

    @Kimmie- I think I subscribe to over 500 style blogs! All of these amazing women really drive me to want to shop!!! But they also show me how to be thankful for my clothes and understand how to use what I have! :) I hope you'll participate in TTT!

    @ML- Thank you! If I can make just one person feel warm and fuzzy, my job is DONE! :)

    @The Suburb Experiment- I think this is the only place, sometimes, that we mommas feel like we can just "talk!" So, I completely understand being wordy. Sometimes I think, "This is my blog. These are my friends. And I haven't talked to an adult all weekend! I'm going to talk 'til I'm blue in the face!" I'm so glad you stopped by. :) Can't wait to see what you have in store.

    @Peggy- THANK YOU! I'm so glad to see you, here! I've been following forever. :)

  19. I love that you are blogging. The wonderful thing about reading blogs is that we see style from real women. I'm not the standard size for fashion and I love seeing other women showing off their style in their real bodies. It is so much more inspiring than stick-figure models that we can't ever look like!

    The Auspicious Life


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